Today, you're a zit riddled teenager no one wants to sleep with, but 15 years from now, you have amazing confidence, and can sleep with anyone. Today, you create a work of art everyone laughs at. 50 years from now, you're a genius. Today, you deal with a powerful enemy that humiliates you. 5 years from now, that foe loses his ass in the stock market and is suddenly not so powerful anymore. You have them right where you want them. What do these scenarios have in common? Time. This is the only element that has more power than money, sex and power itself.
Because everything eventually changes. You just need to live beyond the terrible situation you're in today. Not force anything and let nature take it's course. This is how the referree's union beat the gargantuan NFL. By waiting.
RETREAT TO ADVANCE
On January 20,2008, the Green Bay Packers were one game from the Superbowl. The game was in Lambeau Field, where the Packers almost always won with franchise quarterback, Brett Favre and second year coach, Mike McCarthy. They were facing an exhausted New York Giants team. The weather would eventually reach as low as 5 degrees, reducing the field into an ice skating rink. When the game went into overtime (tied at 20-20), the Packers had the Giants right where they wanted them. They won the coin toss and Favre led his team up the field with ease... until he shockingly threw an interception. The Giants kicked a field goal and won, 23-20. The Packers home crowd (or Cheese Heads) were shocked by the defeat. The Giants would eventually be the team to win the Superbowl.
Favre decided it was time to retire. He was going to turn 39 and had enough. He called a sorrowful retirement speech. And the Packers turned to their new young quarterback, Aaron Rogers. McCarthy and GM Ted Thompson insisted they could still be a winning team without Favre and even expressed relief that Favre finally made a decision. They both got 5 year extensions, while the legend of Favre retired.
But during training camp, Favre said strange things to the press, claiming he didn't really want to retire, that McCarthy and Thompson pressured him, the face of the Packers for the last 17 years, into making a decision. And his desire to come back should be welcome and prompted with a red carpet. McCarthy and Thompson discussed Favre's future with the team for hours and decided it was too late for Favre. They would continue on course with Aaron Rogers. Favre would be traded, if he decided to come out of retirement.
However, the Packers did everything they could do dissuade Favre from coming out of retirement. They offered him $20 million. Favre not only turned it down but wanted to play for the Packer's most hated rival, the Minnesota Vikings. The Packers did not grant him his wish. They traded the legend to the New York Jets under coach, Eric Mangini, for a fourth round pick.
New York loved Favre, a born self-promoter. He was given a key to the city, boxes of New York Cheesecake, but most importantly, he was winning games, while the Packers had a miserable season. They ended 6-10. Favre always dominated the news with his magical abilities, as well, with sound bites about the mistakes the Packers made letting him go. He singled out Thompson and McCarthy consistently, as well as belittling Aaron Rogers. He was a legend, afterall.
The nightmare was only cushioned by a Favre injury, a torn bicept, late in the eason, which cost the Jets 5 consecutive games. The Jets would also miss the playoffs. Favre's age had finally caught up to him. After the season collapsed, Eric Mangini, who named his first child "Brett", was fired. Favre decided that 18 years was enough and retired for good.
Thompson and McCarthy survived this miserable season but at the least Favre and his mouth were gone for good. Or were they? During the summer, there were reports that the Jets officially released Favre, allowing him to sign with any team as a free agent. But summer camp went by and there was no sign of Favre. Had he finally retired?
On August 18, 2009, a week before pre-season, footage dominated the news of head coach Brad Childress driving Favre from the airport, headed toward the Minnesota Vikings' practice facility. It was horrifying news for the Cheese Heads. Brett Favre, the man who brought the Packers back from obscurity, who ended a near 3 decade title drought, the only football player to ever win 3 consecutive MVPs, the man who literally started every game for 18 consecutive years, was now going to play for the Packers' most hated rival, the Minnesota Vikings.
It turned out, the nightmare had just begun for Thompson and McCarthy. On Monday October 5, 2009, Favre finally got his wish, and played against his old team. He humiliated the Packers in a 30-23 victory, jumping like kid chasing an ice cream truck every time he scored a touchdown. After the game, Favre continuing dominating the media with his sound bytes, ripping McCarthy like the loaf of bread he looked like, while the Vikings players expressed puzzlement that any franchise would let go of such a legendary quarterback in lieu of unproven Aaron Rogers. On November 1st, the Packers would get a rematch against the Vikings, but it got worse. Favre won again, 38-26. Favre would act like he won the lottery everytime he scored, jumping up and down. The Packers home crowd eventually even cheered form him. He rubbed it in the face of Thompson and McCarthy indeed -- through his actions. Favre stopped talking shit, but the media went wild with Thompson and McCarthy's titanic error of letting the legend go.
The Vikings would end the season 12-4 and earn second seed in the playoffs. The Packers would eke into the playoffs, but lose in the first round to Kurt Warner and the Arizona Cardinals (on an Aaron Rogers' interception). Meanwhile, the Vikings would face the New Orleans Saints in the NFC Championship. Favre was once again only one game from the Superbowl. There would terrible humiliation in Green Bay if Favre won. In the last minutes of the game, the Vikings were in position to beat the Saints, but once again, Favre threw an interception that cost his team. The Saints would advance to the Superbowl. McCarthy and Thompson breathed a sight of relief once more.
Again, Favre retired. At age 41, the man had taken a horrible beating that season. He had now started every game for 19 years straight, an incredible streak. Why would anyone return? He had beaten his old team twice and proven that he could still play at an age were most football players are window shopping for a walker. The media loved Favre. He was the face of Wrangler jeans. He poked fun at himself in a Superbowl commercial where he won MVP at age 50. McCarthy, Thompson and Aaron Rogers certainly could do without the guy. They just wanted to play football. America saw this amazing guy who should be on dollar bills, but McCarthy saw a demon that never left their house.
Indeed, Favre waited until training camp was well over and before he ended his latest retirement. Number four would return to quarterback the Vikings one last year. But like many sequels, this year did not have the magic of the original. The Vikings lost 3 out of their first 4. Favre finally looked his age, making terrible mistakes that always cost the team dearly. They were in trouble, starting the season 3-6. And then Favre finally lost to the Packers, throwing an interception in the final seconds. And the rematch was even worse; the Packers ripped the Vikings into pieces, 33-3.
To make matters worse, Favre found himself embroiled in a controversy from his New York Jets days. Apparently, he sent a text picture of his penis to the team masseuse and the media tore this up like a pack of wild dogs. Head coach Brad Childress let go of Randy Moss after being on the team only a few weeks. The Vikings were collapsing inwardly. Players complained to the media. When the season became out of reach, Childress himself was fired.
On December 2nd, 2010, Favre was battered by Buffalo Bills linebacker Arthur Moats and sprained his AC joint. The Vikings were done for the season. And Favre's consecutive starting streak ended at 297. The now or never season became never.
Meanwhile, the Packers, they barely made the playoffs, but this time kept advancing... all the way to the Superbowl and defeated the Pittsburgh Steelers, 31-25. Aaron Rogers was the MVP. Coach McCarthy and GM Ted Thompson survived three brutal Brett Favre-less years, absorbing insults, media skewerings, but in the end they waved the Lomardi trophy, putting the final nails on Favre's coffin, ending his career for good.
INTERPRETATION
Brett Favre was the face Green Bay Packers for years, and accomplished incredible feats, breaking records that may never be shattered. He was amazing. But the same reckless mentality that made him who he was stood in the way of the Green Bay Packers success late in his career. He needed a coach that was bigger than him. Mike Holmgren was the last coach with such a presence, and the coach who he won his only Superbowl with. Without such a figure, Favre was simply chaotic energy that always came short of a championship.
Under soft-spoken coach Mike Sherman, the Packers would go into the playoffs, only for Favre to throw an ill-advised interception that cost his team a trip to the Superbowl. This occured almost on an annual basis and Sherman, like Mangini and Childress, was fired.
GM Ted Thompson knew he needed a headstrong coach who would not bend to Favre's whims and ego. This came in the form of Mike McCarthy. A man who coached his way and was never afraid to tell Favre when he fucked up. Favre did not like McCarthy or Thompson. He felt he should be treated like the superstar he was. Favre also thought it was joke that they considered Aaron Rogers a better quarterback. And the public was generally on Favre's side. He had earned that respect. McCarthy and Thompson had to live through the perfect storm of Brett Favre before they could go forward. They knew even a superstar of his magnitude would finally dim.
KEYS TO ENGAGEMENT
As Robert Greene puts it, "a key concept in Taoism is that of Wei-Wu, the idea of action through inaction. Of controlling a situation by not trying to control it... Wei-Wu involves the belief that by fighting and reacting against circumstances, by constantly struggling in life, you actually move backwards, creating more turbulence in your path... sometimes it is better to let the winter pass".
Dealing with a Brett Favre, or someone who has so much more powerful than you, can be overwhelming. When you're overwhelmed, you don't think straight. When you don't think straight, you make mistakes and get crushed. It's happened to all of us. It's better to allow the Favre-type his victories, since you are probably no match. One day, even Favre weakens and that is the day you strike. Striking today will be your undoing, but making time your ally and waiting heightens your power exponentially.
Four weeks ago, the NFL considered the referee's contract unimportant. After last Monday Night's ill advised call, and the 71,000 emails the Commissioner received the next day, an agreement was finalized in two days. The refs applied the law of Wei-Wu and completed their agreement.


































